My darling granddaughter is four years old. She is bright and funny and astoundingly strong-willed. Around the age of three, she came to my home for a play date. I asked her to start picking up so that we could get her home on time. She silently continued playing as though I did not exist. I then quietly asked her to look at me so that I knew she was listening and she calmly kept playing – again as though I did not exist. I stood there and silently asked my Soul for wisdom. This is what came to mind so I said it lovingly and quietly:
Sweetheart, I have no desire to struggle with you so I am going to finish cleaning up the kitchen before I take you home.
The silence continued from the other room. About five minutes later I peeked into the room and she was putting everything away with great care. We straightened the living room together and had time to walk to her house instead of using the car 💓. This idea of not creating a struggle with her has been a theme ever since.
Very recently I was sitting on her bed with her. She is allowed to watch a short tv show after her nap so I was setting up one of her favorites on an iPad … or so I thought. Nothing was working and I was starting to feel frustrated. She is very intuitive and is often aware of our feelings before we are. She leaned into me and touched my arm lightly as she said
You don’t need to struggle, Gama. Just try again.
Then she kissed my cheek, I thanked her for reminding me and we figured it out together!
Need I say more?
Blessings to you this day. Each day comes as a gift, right? Right!
I sit in my bentwood rocker each morning. I love my rocking chair. It is rattan, made in Taiwan. It came back with me from Guam about 30 years ago. It welcomes me every morning as I settle in with a cup of coffee, inspirational reading, and a time of quiet to form my intention for the day.
This morning I am aware of the stark polarities in my world. Peace/War. Compassion/Understanding. Acceptance/Rejection. Love/Indifference. Hope/Fear.
I breathe into this moment and know that Love is. God is.
And because God is Love and both are indefinable, I am alert, aware, open, seeing, listening, receiving, trusting, be-ing.
What else makes any sense at all. The Divine simply Is. Knowing that, I simply am present in this moment being all that I am, resting in that awareness. It has to be enough because this moment is all there is, all I have. It is everything.
My awareness is poised in the creativity of the present moment.
I raised my children before computers and cell phones. As they began to venture out with friends, spend nights in other people’s homes, etc., I began setting boundaries, telling them to check in with me, and being sure they had change for pay phones. One of them asked me why I didn’t trust them, after all they were my children!
This is when I began to teach them why the virtue of trust and being trusted is so valuable….because it is earned. It is proven by a history of behaviors that have shown others that they would consistently do what they said they were going to do. Now that they would be making many decisions on their own, they needed to show me that they would consistently keep agreements with me and live up to the expectations those agreements created. I also taught them the agreements must be spoken and agreed upon by everyone involved, i.e. each of them and their father and me.
I remember saying to them “I don’t trust you because you exist. I will trust you because you show me that you can be trusted.” Then I reminded them that they grew to trust me because when I said I would do something, I did it. Over and over again.
Trust is not a gift. It must be earned.
May each of us find ourselves trust-worthy today. Blessings.
Like Life, Enlightenment is a journey rather than the destination.
Do I consider myself an enlightened being? Yes….in certain areas and ways of life, I get it…I have experienced true enlightenment. In other areas, I still don’t quite get it…my journey of enlightenment is not complete. If it were, I would definitely handle some things way better than I do after all of these years.
So I journey on, staying open and receptive to higher learning, higher understanding, deeper wisdom, love, and compassion. I am learning to let the journey be its own fulfillment. To think I have “arrived” is to set myself up for disappointment and a sense of futility. That does not sound like fun to me!
May your journey, and mine, be gentle today. Peace.
It’s OK to be OK, even when life is a challenge, even when life hurts…
People have a hard time letting go of their suffering. Out of a fear of the unknown, they prefer suffering that is familiar. (Thick Nhat Hanh)
From David Simon, Chopra Center:
When we spend time in silence, we can hear the voice of our soul whispering it’s secret message and encouraging us to make choices that bring us more happiness, health, love, meaning, and peace.