I just read a quote on the Chopra Center Home Page:

When you make a choice, you change the future. (Deepak Chopra)

My initial response was, to my surprise, that I do not agree with that statement. It implies to me that my future is set, pre-determined, and I do not believe that. I was surprised because I have never disagreed with anything I have heard or read from Deepak Chopra. I haven’t always understood but I have never disagreed. Needless to say, I had to do some thinking about this statement. What does it mean? What is my truth? Do I really not believe it or would I simply articulate it differently? I thought my future was a field of infinite possibilities ( Dr. Chopra’s term)?

As I sat with all of this, numerous scenarios came to mind that helped me to come into clarity. As I type this, I find that I agree with what he said in certain situations and that I would say it differently in others. For example, numerous women have shared with me over the years that they are unhappy in their marriages. Each has said almost the same thing to me, the same reason that she stays in a relationship that is wearing her down, often creating extreme health issues, and undermining her own spiritual growth and sense of True Self. She tells me that she loves him and she knows “God put them together so that she could help her husband get or stay clean and sober, find God or enlightenment, etc.” She is willing to be sad, lonely, unhappy, ill, and perhaps die in the process. Sounds extreme, doesn’t it? It is extreme and she doesn’t realize she has put herself in the position of being responsible for someone else’s spiritual journey. In this scenario, I completely agree with the above quote. If she makes a choice to leave the relationship, she will definitely change the future she is currently creating. Now she has opened the door for that field of infinite possibilities for herself and, most likely, for her husband because now he will be responsible for what he is creating and he can choose to change his choices or not.

How would I say what Deepak Chopra is talking about? I would say this:

When you make a choice, you are creating your future.

Please notice that I was specific about the consequences experienced by the woman. Her health and her own spiritual journey was being seriously compromised. I have known women who stayed in similar relationships and who continued to mature spiritually and be healthy and happy in the process. They were making choices every day that supported their own highest good. Some of their husbands or lovers began making healthier, wiser choices for themselves; some did not.

When you make a choice, you are creating your future. It can either be more of the same (for better or for worse depending on the present) or it can look very different from what you are currently “seeing.” Do you get it? You can either keep creating what you are creating or, if your present isn’t what you want,  you can begin to shift your creation….hopefully toward your own highest good and the highest good of all.

For some of you, this is a lot to take in and grasp. Be gentle, loving and compassionate with yourself and others. Let your truth unfold within you, turn within to Divine Love and Wisdom, seek guidance, and trust your Higher Self to lead you into your highest good.

Peace and Love All Ways.

My Highest Good

Many years ago when I was a bible teacher, I began to understand the concept of the Divine always seeking my highest good. When I prayed for something to come into my life and it never manifested, I knew deep within that the Divine seeks my highest good over all my human wants and desires. Then I began to desire only my highest good and the highest good of all. No longer did I assume I knew my own highest good and, that being true, I certainly did not know the highest good for anyone else.

The way I prayed changed. The way I heard what others shared with me changed. The way I felt in my personal times of silence and stillness changed. My most powerful mantra became “Show me.” The power of asking and learning to receive from Divine Love only what was best for me changed my life. It doesn’t mean I am never frustrated or disappointed; these are very human emotions and experiences. It did mean that I moved through these feelings more quickly and trusted my own journey and the Divine within.

May my mind and heart be open to my own highest good and the highest good of all. May all things unfold for my highest good and the highest good of all. May I embrace my own highest good and support the highest good of others, whether I understand it or not.

May your mind and heart be open to your own highest good and the highest good of all. Aum shanti Aum.

Unexpected Change

I just posted this on my web site:

Life is full of changes and change feels more challenging when we don’t initiate it consciously. I am learning that such changes are initrates by the Divine in order to fulfill my desire for my highest good and the highest good of all. Enjoy this day as a gift!

Today I would like to invite you to visit my web site and “like” it for me. I am just learning that this helps others find my page. Then they can also come to my blog as well as knowing what gifts I have to share.

I would appreciate your support.

What Emanates From Me?

We have all experienced times when a loved one is in crisis. For many of us, our natural instinct is to help. What can I say or do to make this better? What does my loved one need to heal, recover, or be exonerated in this situation? Our heart’s desire is to support, to help, to make it better.

There are situations that are so overwhelming on the human level that I am left speechless. Those of you who know me may chuckle at the thought that I am ever without words! Yet there I am without a thought in my head in response to what I am seeing or hearing. All I have in that moment is “I love you.” Isn’t it interesting that I think that is not enough? Yeah. Think about that for a minute.

I spent many years in support groups learning how to let people live out their own situations. I had to learn to stay in my own life and take care of me so that I could wisely discern when my help was necessary and truly supportive, when a hug or a kind word was my greatest gift, or when quietly showing up with food or a restaurant gift card met an immediate need.

When those closest to me (my children or other family members) are suffering, is when I am most challenged to stay in my own life. Learning about energy and emotions and what love really is has helped me to understand the greatest gift I can give to others. I will try to put this into words with clarity and simplicity.

Love is the Divine Emotion. Like all emotions, It is energy in motion (e-motion). Energy emanates out from my being on all levels of awareness – this is what an aura is. My aura is the energy that emanates out from the physical body that I am currently occupying. My aura fluctuates, sometimes expanding outward without limit and other times moving close to my physical body. Emotions are powerful energies; some are extremely intense. For example, have you ever felt heat emanate off a person who is furious? Anger is an intensely hot energy, isn’t it? Have you ever entered a room where everyone is quietly going about their business yet you can feel tension in the air? Conflict can be felt long after those involved have stopped arguing.

So, what emanates out from my body when someone I love is suffering? What am I “sending” to them when I think about them? I believe that what I am feeling for them goes to them. If one of my children calls me and shares something they are struggling with or hurting over, I remind myself that my response matters – not because I can fix everything for them but because we are so deeply connected that my energy will interact with theirs quickly and even from a great distance. If I worry and fret, that is what they will feel from me and it may cause them not to reach out because they don’t want to upset me. They may also feel that I don’t have faith in their ability to deal with life. Is that what I want? Absolutely not!

Now, my intention is very different from what it used to be. I still hurt when my dear ones hurt; I grieve and am profoundly sad at times. What is different is my awareness that this will emanate out from me to them during stressful times. My spiritual practice becomes clear. I sit with my own emotions and honor my own pain, moving through these feelings as quickly as I can. Then I fill my heart, mind and body with light and love for that person. I envision my love as soft light that bathes them and permeates their being physically, mentally and emotionally. Every time my loved one comes to mind, I take a slow breath and picture them bathed in light and love. I send them blessings and silently tell them that I love them and I believe in them. And I let this be enough. I trust that, when they think of me, the only thing they feel is my love and my faith that this will work to their highest good.

And it is also what I say when given the opportunity: I love you, sweetheart, and I believe in you. I trust you to find a way and I trust the Divine to bring you your highest good.

In the moment, this doesn’t always feel like enough. My experience, however, has shown me that it is enough. Loved ones have come back to me and said they trust me with their struggles because I don’t try to fix everything or give them all the answers. They tell me that they know I believe in them. Whew! The first few times it blew my mind! It still makes me emotional because their highest good is what truly matters to me. And it is grace in action to understand on a deep level that I do NOT know what is best for others in any given moment.

May you be blessed today with the wisdom and understanding of what is best for you. I love you and I believe in you. May your life unfold for your highest good and the highest good of all.