From “Zen Cards” by Daniel Levin:
The center is not always the point of balance. When you find that place where Balance is achieved, peace will result in all situations. There is no conflict, for everything rests without strain.
As I read this, I wonder…..then I pick up an un-sharpened No. 2 pencil. I lay it across one finger at its center point and it falls off. Of course it does. The eraser end is heavier than the writing end. I move its resting point toward the eraser end. It balances.
So what? Well, balance is essential to our wellbeing. Healthy diet, reasonable amounts of exercise, fresh air, sleep, and the meeting of other physical needs keeps the body in balance. Attention to these things benefits our physical wellbeing. Many of these things are also necessary for mental and emotional balance, and thus, wellbeing. Too much sugar and not enough sleep directly affect how we react/respond to daily life. These two things can throw our mental/ emotional balance off very quickly.
I am thinking and writing about these things because I have been assessing my own habits in light changes in my own life. I want to be stronger, more active, continue to learn, grow, and serve. I am finding what works for me and I am inviting you to sit with these ideas now and then and see if you can discern your own needs in ways that create more balance, energy, happiness, and joy for you.
Blessings of Love and Light💫💖🙏
A balanced mind abides in the present moment.
To abide means to remain, continue, stay, dwell, reside. The mind only knows now, this present moment. There is no past or future. Have I presented another paradox? If the mind knows only the now then what is going on when I spend an entire day dwelling on past mistakes, losses or disappointments? What is going on when I spend an entire night in fear and anxiety over future possibilities? I am bringing the past and/or the future into the present moment and my mind will respond accordingly as will my body and my emotions.
When I abide in the past, whether the memories are filled with joy or trauma, my mind interprets it as happening in the present. And if I abide in the future, whether I look forward with joyful anticipation or anxiety-filled dread, my mind thinks it is happening right now. Aside from the physical and emotional responses that are triggered, I am totally oblivious to and missing out on the present moment.
Yes, there are times when the future or the past are appropriately part of the present. When families get together and share laughter and joy while reminiscing, that is their present moment. When a young family prepares for the birth of a child months ahead of its arrival, that is their present moment. These experiences come and go and the attention returns to the beauty of the sky, paying bills on time, or preparing a meal that will be shared lovingly with the family.
The key is developing the ability to abide in the moment. I come back to each person finding what works for them, what keeps them in the here and now. For me, when I walk, my intention is to see, hear and enjoy my world. I watch the sky, listen to the birds, say hi to neighbors and pet their dogs. I breathe the air and allow gratitude for my life, even when at present it is filled with challenges.
Years ago, Thich Nhat Hanh, suggested on one of his tapes to walk very slowly to the phone when it rings. As you walk, ask yourself if you can be fully present with the person calling. If you cannot stop what you are doing and be only with that person, do not answer the phone. Call them later. (Thich Nhat Hanh is a Vietnamese monk living in exile. The primary focus of his loving, compassionate teaching is mindfulness.)
The way to begin is to become aware of your own mental patterns. It is important to embrace this awareness without judgement. Awareness allows me to accept what I have been doing to avoid the present moment. Once I accept that I have created these patterns, I can forgive myself if necessary and begin to create new patterns of mental behavior.
For many people, this process is enhanced through counseling with a professional therapist. I am in this group. There have been a number of times in my life when therapy was essential to finding and maintaining a healthy mental state of being. Others need medication in addition because they live with a chemical imbalance of some type that must be treated in order for them to be able to experience healthy thought patterns. Remember, the physical directly impacts the mental and vice versa.
May you learn to abide in the moment as you discover the balance of body, mind and emotions that allows you to do so. Peace, tranquility and contentment will follow and also abide with you.
Emotional balance has been unfolding in my life for 50 years. One of the biggest hurdles has been letting go of the belief that my emotions define me; that I am what I am currently feeling. I now define emotion as: e-motion = energy in motion. When I am experiencing a specific emotion, I realize that it is energy moving through my entire being. It is energy that has been given a name such as happiness, sorrow, anger, etc. Remembering this helps me release judgement about the nature of that energy. Energy is energy; it is neither good nor bad; it just is.
As practices for the body and mind (yoga, meditation, healthy eating, exercise, fresh air, loving friends, etc.) have become consistent in my life, my emotions have become more consistent as well. For the most part, my emotions fit what I am experiencing in the moment. When each of my parents died, I was deeply sad and grieved. I was also profoundly grateful that I was with them in their transitions. I was proud to be their daughter. I was also grateful for everything they had given me over the years. So many emotions flowed during those times and I felt them all. Intense and fulfilling all at once.
In releasing judgement, I view these experiences in terms of intensity. Seldom is overwhelming happiness described as bad, yet it is every bit as intense as sorrow and can be just as exhausting. My granddaughter’s birth was so intensely joyful that there were times I didn’t sleep very well. There were times when I quietly cried for happy. Intense.
On the other end of the spectrum, I choose not to take in news about things like child abuse because the depth of anger I feel on behalf of these innocents is almost frightening to me. But is anger always “bad?” Not in my opinion, because there are many people who have been inspired to acts of bravery because of the anger that arises within them. Anger and frustration with things I had allowed or created in my life have given me the courage to make very difficult changes. Intense.
Intensity is seldom comfortable, which is why these energies are judged as bad or unhealthy. The key, is – guess what? – balance! It makes more sense to realize that imbalance in the emotional body creates confusion and can be destructive than to set the goal of never feeling these things. When I feel angry, can I allow myself to be in it in a way that leads me to action, forgiveness or compassion? If so, I will quickly return to peace and tranquility. My actions will be appropriate to the situation and to my desire and intention to live lovingly and compassionately. It is when I avoid and stuff or hide my feelings that my behavior becomes inappropriate and possibly destructive.
Balance is the key. Here are a few reasonable goals: Feel without being thrown against the wall by the intensity of emotions. Be willing to sit with the discomfort in order to remember that energy in motion does not define me; it is something you are experiencing in the moment. It will diminish, shift, transform because that is the nature of energy. Embrace the experience for what it is: a human experience that does not change or define your True Self, a spiritual being. Be patient and remember that it takes time and maturity to come into this awareness in every aspect of your being: physical, mental, emotional. You don’t have to change everything at once. You don’t have to fight yourself and judge yourself. You do not have to be perfect. You can be in this moment, experience it, and be all that you are. You can unfold into True Self as naturally as a healthy tree matures and produces perfect fruit.
One of my favorite responses to myself when I explode into emotional intensity and catch myself in the midst of it is: Well, Catherine Ann, welcome to the human race!
In my last post I wrote generally about balance of body, mind, and emotions. This time I want to focus on creating physical balance. In hatha yoga, we begin with the physical body because it is the part of ourselves that we can see, touch, use, feel, experience. Keep in mind that any benefit gained in one are (physical, mental, or emotional) produces greater well-being in all.
Beginning with the physical is wise as well as practical. Calming the mind or emotions, for example, can be impossible if the body chemistry is out of wack. For example, I was in my late twenties when the medical world came up with the concept of PMS (premenstrual syndrome). It was a significant breakthrough for women because with identification comes information on how to create balance within the experience.
I read everything I could get my hands on, which actually wasn’t much. This was pre-internet so magazine, books, talk shows were the best source for current information. I began paying attention and realized that excessive caffeine, sugar, salt, and a lack of exercise and rest intensified my mental and emotional ups and downs for a week before menses onset as well as the week during as well. That is half of every month!! As I learned to limit the intake of these foods while walking more (and eventually joining the new rage of jogging), mood swings lessened significantly. I slept better, thought more clearly and joyfully experienced a lessening of the intensity of cramping and headaches. Life was oh-so-much better!
This experience opened my mind to the idea of the interaction of body, mind, and emotions. Over the years I have discovered what best keeps me in balance. I am now post-menopausal so that is no longer an issue. Now there are other physical issues, like keeping a healthy blood sugar balance because I have a tendency toward hypoglycemia, monitoring blood pressure, cholesterol levels, etc.
Do I have a formula to offer you? Nope.
I do have a few suggestions.
Pay attention to: your physical energy levels with relationship to different types of food, how you digest different foods. For example, I noticed in my late thirties that raw onions were no longer something I could digest well. If you aren’t sure how to evaluate your diet for your age, general condition, etc. perhaps your doctor can refer you to a reliable nutritionist. It helped me immensely.
Ask yourself simple questions and look at the answers honestly and without judgement: Do I eat regularly throughout the day so that my energy stays steady? Am I willing to let go of things that undermine balance and health – like an overabundance of sodas or sweets? Do I eat more fresh foods that processed foods? Have I learned to read labels? Do I get enough rest or am I regularly running myself into the ground? Have I found a form of exercise that suits my lifestyle and current physical condition? Do I make time for that a sufficient number of times each week? Am I willing to try something that is out of my comfort zone, like yoga, meditation, or tai chi?
Talk to people who stay fit, laugh a lot and enjoy their lives. Never hesitate to ask for guidance or help with creating a balanced, healthy life.
Keep on keepin’ on until new behaviors become part of your normal routine. You deserve to feel good and enjoy life.
Try stuff. If something isn’t a fit for you, try something else. There is no one way that works for everyone. You get to choose but choose you must.
Above all, find what works for you.
Walter Littlemoon passed through my life briefly during a time of personal healing and searching. I carry him in my heart and mind because he looked into my soul and knew me. He honored my journey when I didn’t understand it myself. I remember him as a tall, quiet, gentle man of great intelligence and profound compassion. He spoke softly, humbly and taught much with very few words.
Walter Littlemoon was born at Wounded Knee in 1942. Taken from his family at the age of 5, he was forced into a federal government boarding school. His family, language and traditions denied him. I met him in the early 1990’s when he visited friends in Florida. He graciously conducted sweat lodges without asking for payment of any kind. Money offered in gratitude for his presence and teaching was given to the destitute community of Wounded Knee. His entire life has been dedicated to restoring his people and his land. I sat in stunned silence when he told us he was not supposed to leave the reservation without official permission. How could that be in a free country?! Fortunately for all of us, Walter answered to a power higher than any government and traveled where Great Spirit led him.
I will not presume to tell his story for I cannot do him or the Lakota people justice. I hope you will search him out on the internet. You will be blessed.
When I told him I was nervous about doing my first sweat lodge (in summer, in Florida), he very lightly touched my shoulder and quietly said, “Trust the Creator. You are meant to be here.” At his touch, a calm peacefulness spread through me and I entered the lodge. Those words have carried me through many challenging life experiences. I could easily feel the sacredness of Walter Littlemoon’s path; he helped me understand the sacredness of my own.
Even as I struggle to share something of my experience with him, I hear his sweet voice, “Trust the Creator. You are meant to be here.”
“Here” is wherever I am in the moment, whatever I am experiencing in the moment. “Here” is all that I have been in the past, all that I am in this moment, and all that I will be in the future. “Here” transcends geography, ethnicity, gender, religion, politics. Let this be your meditation today:
TRUST THE CREATOR. YOU ARE MEANT TO BE HERE.
Human beings are designed for balance. Homeostasis is the natural mechanism that functions 100% of the time to establish and maintain balance. It is an automatic and wonderfully complex process. Mental and emotional balance are part of homeostasis because there is no separation among the body, mind, and emotions. What affects one, affects all – whether that effect is toward health and wholeness or dis-ease and imbalance. I can enhance balance by my lifestyle choices, making it easier for my body to achieve balance and wholeness. I can exhaust it when my lifestyle choices undermine the process.
I can raise my own awareness by asking myself these questions: Am I helping or hurting myself? What are the patterns in my life? What do I want to experience? Do the choices I make in any given moment support or undermine my fundamental desires?
Have you known someone who is faced with overwhelming life challenges and yet remains loving, kind and able to find joy in small ways? Do you wonder where they find the strength to go on? Is it possible their level of self-awareness is a major factor?
Have you ever known someone who consistently creates chaos while bemoaning their fate and wishing for a more peaceful, happy life? Do you wonder why nothing ever goes their way? Is it possible their level of self-awareness is a major factor?
My observation is that both people, consciously or not, are seeking balance. What we need to understand is that this balance comes from within our beings, not from the circumstances outside of us. It emanates from our personal choices moment-by-moment. The results f those choices hinge on the level of our self-awareness, our consciousness.
So, if a person is chaotic within themselves, they will manifest chaos outside themselves because, to them, this feels like balance. And they are right. What they experience inside and outside is in balance but this does not create peace and contentment.
If a person is balanced and peaceful within themselves, they will manifest balance and peace outside themselves because, to them, this feels like balance. And they are right. What they experience inside and out is in balance and it does create peace and contentment.
The difference is that one achieves a healthy balance and one does not. Remember that balance is not a static state. Even the healthiest balance waivers now and then. The question is “What am I creating and how am I living the majority of the time?”
Life is not about perfection. It is about balance and harmony and wholeness.